My pastor's words are the conclusion to the discussion that has been going round in circles for days. Thankyou to all the people with differing views who wrote with humilty and grace. To those who seek to divide, it will never happen because love conquers all.
I will be moderating all comments from now on because I don't want it all kicking off again.
The verse Philip quoted is my prayer.
"Little children, let us love, not in word or speech, but in truth and action" (1 John 3:18)